Looking for What’s Right…

by Nancy Tetreaux

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Looking For What’s Right…
Thoughts from Nancy…
Tuesday, November 20th, 2012

One of the most useful exercises I’ve learned in the last few years is the practice of listing the things for which I’m grateful, and I highly recommend it if you haven’t tried it.


Unless we stand guard at the gate of our thoughts, in any given hour or day we will tend to focus on things that are wrong because we’re conditioned to look for those things, rather than for the things that seem right.


Events, things, people we consider out of place or “wrong” can be construed as dangerous by our animal brains, so it is understandable that we notice them first. Looking for what’s wrong becomes a habit of mind that for most of us takes a conscious effort to reform.


But the consequence of looking for the things that are wrong is that you’ll find them. And if it is your project to confirm that your world is full of woes, then a world of woes you shall have. It is also the case, however, that looking for what’s right can have a similar effect. Which world would you rather be in – a world of woe or wonder?


Bad things happen. There’s no doubt of that. Hurricane Sandy here in the Northeast made that abundantly clear quite recently. And when really bad and even dangerous things such as that happen, it’s especially difficult to focus on what’s right. But, sometimes the things that are right sparkle like diamonds in the midst of a muddy pond; find one and you are bound to find a few more.


Whatever your circumstances might be, take a few minutes before the end of your day today – maybe right now – to make a list of at least ten things that light you up; really – write them down, and as you do watch for an upward shift in your mood.


My cat Arlo

They can be very simple things; sometimes these are the best. I often include on my list the face of my youngest cat, Arlo, the smell of coffee in the morning (I love coffee!), the feel of the sun on my face or the quiet tapping of rain on my windows when I’m cozy inside. I’m grateful for my friends and family, and my work and home, and I’m grateful for you and your support.



I wish you a very Happy Thanksgiving!



– Nancy



“He is a wise man who does not grieve for the things which he has not, but rejoices for those which he has.” ~Epictetus

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